Once upon a time, a sorority was defined as “a society for female students in a university or college, typically for social purposes.” The women who joined these organizations longed for a place to belong on their college campuses and sought to make a positive difference to their communities.
But as time went on and issues such as hazing and drinking gained prominence, this interpretation was lost. Sororities seemingly lost respect throughout college campuses. Just do an Urban Dictionary search of “sorority,” and you’ll come up with a range of definitions describing “an organization for women who either subscribe to the ideals of fascism…or for women who just want to get drunk and screw around a lot” to “a community of college age women who are united in their passionate thirst to shop, especially when it comes to buying themselves friends.” I can’t help but laugh at these new descriptions.
After being in a sorority for two full years, I can truly say I’ve always taken pride in my letters and what they represent — friendship, loyalty, sisterhood, philanthropy — and have always assumed that other sisters in other sororities have felt the same about theirs. But clearly, I was wrong.
When Gawker published “The Most Deranged Sorority Girl Email You Will Ever Read” (http://gawker.com/5994974/the-most-deranged-sorority-girl-email-you-will-ever-read) about two weeks ago, they made it clear that the stereotypes and behaviors that the sororities on this campus try so hard to disprove are true elsewhere. The social chair of Delta Gamma at the University of Maryland clearly doesn’t have the same morals, beliefs and values as the organizations at SUNY New Paltz, and that in itself is extremely disappointing.
Mentioning the author’s name would just be giving her too much credit for the disgrace that she has brought upon the entire national Greek Life community. From beginning her email with “tie yourself down to whatever chair you’re sitting in because this email is going to be a rough f**king ride,” to her comments including “newsflash you stupid c*cks: FRATS DON’T LIKE BORING SORORITIES” and “I pity you because I don’t know how you got this far in life, and with that in mind don’t f**king show up unless you’re going to stop being a goddamn c*ckblock for our chapter,” it shouldn’t have been a surprise that she ended her email with a simple statement — “and for those of you who are offended at this email, I would apologize but I really don’t give a f**k.”
Not sure if I was the only person in my chapter who so strongly disagreed with this girl, so I reached out to my sisters to see what they thought. In Alpha Epsilon Phi’s chapter of 54 girls, many agreed that the letter was out of line and out of touch with the values on our campus.
“I understand she may be disappointed in the social skills of her sorority and it looks bad on her as Vice President of Social, but she could have handled it in a better way and been a lot nicer,” said Jamie Isbit, a third-year psychology major. “If she was here, she would be disaffiliated in a second.”
Her point raised the question to other sisters to think about how our chapter would react to this situation.
“I immediately thought of my friend in Delta Gamma at Adelphi when I read the letter,” said Sara Caruso, a third-year communication disorders major. “I texted her and even she was outraged. If that happened in our chapter I would be so embarrassed and mad that AEPhi was shown in a bad way, so I can only imagine how she feels.”
However, Kaitlin Indelicato, a third-year media management major felt that the sentiment behind the author’s actions were justified.
“I think that she’s just frustrated because she probably works really hard in her position to have as much fun as possible,” she said. “Just like in our chapter, it makes the sorority look bad when we don’t look happy. She definitely did not hide any of her feelings, and I think she has a good point.”
Others in our sorority felt likewise.
Second-year English major Coleen Higgins had a similar opinion to Indelicato’s.
“Despite its vulgar language, I believe it accurately articulates the importance of inter-Greek relations,” she said. “You could look at it in two ways — it clearly lacks professionalism, and some would say it puts the Greek system in a bad light, but at the root of it, there is a strong desire to build a community which is what the Greek system is all about.”
“I guess you could say she should work on her tone and communication skills,” she added.
And working on her communication skills (or damage control) is what she’ll probably be doing for a very long time — the author recently resigned as a sister after being identified by the media.
The Delta Gamma national leaders responded in a statement on their Facebook page. They said that they accept her resignation and now consider the “highly inappropriate and unacceptable” issue to be over with.
Good luck in the non-Greek world, Rebecca Martinson! (Sorry, I just couldn’t refrain myself from causing her more humiliation.)